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Nature lover and an eternal optimist at heart. I love to write about personal growth and mental health.

I learned a powerful lesson when I received an insightful letter from my future self

Dear Terry

It’s yourself here. Greetings from 5 years in the future. I’ve come to check up on you. You’ve come a long way in your 47 years. Born and raised in Great Britain, you moved to New Zealand when you were 17 years old. Now happily married with two cats. Yes, you do love cats, don’t you?

Before we start. No, you didn’t win the lottery!

You are still working full-time in the IT industry. You love it. You love the whole process improvement…

The power to change can come from the most unlikely of places

For many high-performing people, getting up early is the key to their success. Using the early hours before the rest of the world rises, to get things done. CEO of Apple, Tim Cook famously gets up at 3:45 am. Achieving a level of productivity that us mere mortals could only dream about.

It’s a simple truth that I’m not an early riser by nature. Surrounded by a cocoon of warmth and comfort under my duvet. The thought of greeting the day with the birds fills me with an assault on the senses and the dread of an anxiety attack.


What will you do today to prioritize your own health and wellbeing?

It’s no surprise to anyone that 2020/21 has been an incredibly tough year. We have all suffered to varying degrees. Whether it’s losing full-time employment, gaining weight, or taking a hit mentally because of a Covid lock-down.

Though I was lucky enough to keep my full-time career. There were challenges in daily life — work-related study, dealing with grief after my wife lost a loved one, as well as trying to develop my writing skills. Trying to give them the time I thought they deserved was much harder than I expected.

I felt exhausted. Staying up late. Drinking more than…

I needed to make a change and become a better husband

Six months ago, I was sitting on the couch in a therapist’s office. I wasn’t there by myself, and I wasn’t there because my marriage was falling apart. I was there with my wife because I love her. To support her. Wanting to make our marriage even better than it already was.

My wife has been through a tough time. With her mother passing away six months prior. Combined with her brother being involved in a serious head-on car accident. All this with Covid ravaging its way through the country, it all got too much. The reason for instigating the…

Every twist and turn provides an opportunity to learn.

I’ve only been writing on Medium for just over one month. The first time I’ve ever taken writing seriously. I don’t see myself as a natural writer. I’ve always been creatively minded. Tending towards photography over the printed word. It was only after the suggestion from a counselor and discovering the benefits of writing a journal, that I discovered Medium.

At the time of writing this article, I’ve published four articles and waiting for the acceptance of a fifth. This isn’t an enormous amount by any stretch of the imagination. I…

Is it possible to give yourself an intervention?

Several years ago, my Facebook profile picture was a photo of myself with a glass of red wine in my hand. It was a black & white photograph, which I felt gave it an arty, moody style. I don’t know how other people saw me, but Looking back, I hated that photo. I saw myself as a miserable drunk. I felt like that glass of wine defined me.

My experience with caring for our Ocicat Maisie after one year.

Our Ocicat Maisie relaxing after a hard day playing Photo: Author’s own
Our Ocicat Maisie relaxing after a hard day playing Photo: Author’s own

There is nothing more a cat lover looks forward to than the opportunity to choose another kitten. My wife and I already have one cat. Our beautiful Biscuit: 17-year-old short-haired ginger female. Biscuit is perfect in every way: old, grumpy, scatty, fussy eater, and spends about 23 hours a day sleeping.

We had a very difficult decision to make. We wanted to get another kitten - a new play friend for Biscuit but didn’t want to take away from the serenity and calm that she had been used to…

And the Positive steps you can take to build a healthy mind

When we all went into lockdown, I read an article. The article essentially said that if you went through a lockdown and had not gained new knowledge or a new skill, there was something wrong with you. All that time stuck in the house with little other than an over-supply of toilet paper and an internet connection, you had all the opportunity in the world to start a new side hustle or other accomplishments.

Instead of putting so much pressure on ourselves to succeed we have been put…

Let your sensory adventure begin.

Picture the scene. You have watched Sideways and SOMM on Netflix. You fantasize about drinking Pinot in the California setting sun surrounded by gorgeous vineyards bathed in golden light. You channel Miles from Sideways about how Pinot Noir grapes are survivors; thin-skinned and temperamental making it the quintessential wine drinkers’ beverage of choice.

Then reality strikes. You do not really know where Pinot Noir comes from let alone what it tastes like. You love champagne but cannot understand why it is so expensive. All your friends, including yourself, mostly drink beer, but secretly you want to be that guy or…

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